Being Bullied ?

If you were bullied in school, college or even in office. Stand for it. Stand for yourself. Nobody’s going to help you unless you help yourself. 

Share it with your people, your parents . Speak about it. Don’t sit in a corner and cry thinking you’re not good enough or nothing good can happen to you or you’re such a loser or the worst of all that you deserve to be treated like this.
Trust me, nobody deserves such treatment. Nobody. You deserve to be treated with respect, love and care. 
And shall I tell you something which would cheer you up? This bully thing will make you stronger . You’ll work hard on yourself and you’ll reach the stars. And your bullies, they will get what they did. But you, you’ll grow like a tree , strong and rooted and unstoppable. 
And in life, you WILL meet people who would love you for what you’re. 

But for all this beautiful things to happen, you need to start valuing yourself, you need to love yourself first and believe in yourself. 

Good things will happen . InshaAllah
( I know few people who have gone through this and I see them shining so bright )
And 

‘You become what you think’.
Love 😘 .

Struggle is Real 

​It’s looks perfect. You feel proud of yourself . You think , ” wow I can do it, it’s not rocket science”.

Then you go ahead and apply the same on the second one, and it is a disaster. 

To compensate, you go back to the first one and try to make it look like the second and then ‘that’ becomes a disaster. Again back to second and then so on. 

And then you curse every person who suggested, convinced and even compelled you to do it.
Eyeliner. Struggle is real.

(In frame – Me)

Beauty and The Stupids

​Recently, I had a talk with a stranger about beauty , don’t ask me how it came up.

So, I told her that there is this girl whom I see everyday while going to office and she looks so beautiful. The innocence on her face is so rare and makes me look at her atleast once when I take my cab. 

So the stranger said “Sounds interesting. That’s a rare combination. And if you praise her so much , I have contacts who are into modelling business. Such beauty should be seen by the world.Do share her contact number.By the way How old that girls is?” 

I said that she must be around 16-17.

This made the curiosity insect bit her and she asked “what a girl of such age does at the road everyday?” 

I said she’s there with her mother . And the insect bit her more this time , she got more curious and asked what the mother and the daughter do on the road ?

I answered that they are fruit sellers and must say they are so kind and humble . ”

She said “Oh. I need to get down. Bye”
I have never seen such a sudden change of interest and expression ever. 
Isn’t it great that we have defined already that a person of certain community or job or a race or complexion or financial status has to look in a certain way? 

I must say, ‘We’ are the best creation of Almighty – so intelligent and kind and understanding and impartial and unbiased and what not . Feel proud 🙂
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What’s your Calling?

This morning a friend of mine came to my room.

I was talking to my Mamujaan on phone. So she chose to read my wall, the physical wall. I write on walls the things and words I like and get inspired by. So she came upon this word – Calling. 

What’s your calling ? Whoa, this question is the most contenting yet dangerous question. 

When you dig deep, think like hell, talk to yourself and experiment almost everything – then you get to know the answer. And after knowing what is your calling , it’s very difficult and terrible when you’re not able to pursue it. And sometimes, you go for it leaving everything behind . 

I have a friend who is so close to me and the level of trust I have on him is immense . We know each other since I was 9. He went on the expedition to find what’s his calling. And when he found out, he had no option but to pursue it. Few people are courageous like him but his calling was something which I always liked for others but never wanted for him . But that unsaid rule friendship left me with no option but to support him.

I still cry thinking about the choice he made. But when I see him happy , so happy about it – all the sadness and regret goes away. And I feel prouder that yeah, he has the courage to do what he wants from life.
Be courageous. Look , find, search for your calling. And be brave and passionate enough to accept and pursue it ! 

Money you’d make, sooner or later. But enjoying and loving what you doing- is Beautiful and adds tonnes to your Happiness ( The ultimate goal ).
*Smile and Enjoy the Sunday* 

*Oops , Monday tomorrow,  Now freak out you guys* 

Choose The One

We come across many kind of loves in our lives.Few people confess and few don’t .
And when people confess their love to you , trust them – As feelings don’t lie.
Trust their words because they do love you, though momentarily, lustfully, pretentiously, illogically, cowardly, hopelessly or (rarely) truly !
But choose the one who loves you so madly that he wants to wake up to you single day, so deeply that he understands your silence and cherishes every single word unspoken, and so enough that he would fight the whole world just to be with you !

Failure

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Yes, it is !

Many times , we fail
Well in my case, most of the times
Earlier I used to mourn
But now, I learn

And that’s the best thing we can do with our failures – LEARN!
LEARN to reduce the possibility of facing the same failure again .
LEARN to make yourself stronger and Wiser.
LEARN … Because mourning and crying is too mainstream !

…Because You Deserve To Be

Dear Me,
Its really okay. You were strong. And You Are, still !
But that thing went beyond your capabilities, your tolerance, your resistance.
It was the right time to stop it.
Right time to – Stop being so nice, Stop being too kind, Stop being so trusting, Stop being so stupid, Stop being so after Love…

Be grateful to Almighty that He brought such situation to make you realize that people around are not always good. Take it as a lesson,baby.

You are lucky, you have people who care about you. Love them. Cherish them.
I know you suffered a lot …but still I advice you to Forgive.
Forgive – so that you can live.
And Live the life as it demands to be lived !

You don’t need any man to know your value. Nor to take care of you.
You are capable enough to take care of yourself.
Ambitious and Smart enough to pursue your dreams.

I know, you are way too strong and it is THE time to move on !

Go out. Take out your Camera. Laugh loud. Drive long. Meet new people. Call friends. Take selfies.

In short , Be the ‘old’ updated version of you.
Smile truly and Be Happy … Because You Deserve To Be !

Love,
Me.

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Parents? Not My Responsibility !-Really?

Few days back, I came across a post on a social media platform which compelled me to think – Why?
Why two people
who brought us to the world
-who cried out of joy when we cried the moment we came to this world
-who spent sleepless night while taking care of us when we cried without any reason
-who answered our stupid repetitive questions with all kind interest
-who were holding our hand when we took our stumbling first step
-who were excited about our first day at school while we were crying
-who spent hours shopping about the little dresses for our fancy dress competition
-who sacrificed their resting hours for our sudden project submissions
-who were worried about our grades more than us
-who knew that our toy cars would break soon but still bought for us
-who knew that though we are kids but still they cared about our sentiments
-who taught us the values of life
-who sent us to high schools, to colleges
-who supported us whenever be broke down and  gave us hope
-who treated us equally and were never biased
-who never differentiated between their daughter and son
Are left at old age homes or many times in their own homes all alone to spend their rest of the lives without us? Without their busy schedule they had, when we were with them? And…Without Love?

When I see around, I see many parents who are old and need to be dependent on their kids, not just physically but emotionally. But I see them Alone. Because their Sons and Daughters are married or moved to some other place . The Son cant keep them, because the Daughter in law wouldn’t like the presence of old creatures but Yes! she would cry her heart for her own parents.The Daughter would express helplessness because she’s married woman now ! (majority cases am talking about)

When I see around I see people blaming the ‘sons’ for leaving their parents alone at this point of life. I too get furious !

But then I think…the great parents do everything (lot more than what’s mentioned above) for their kids, irrespective of their children’s gender. Their love, for their kids, is equal, be it son or daughter.
Then WHY? Why and How parents are responsibility of Sons ONLY?

Women want equality in everything. They want to be no where lesser than men, they Why…Why Women lag behind taking care of their parents after getting married?
Are they no more daughters to their parents?
Or Is our society so sick that it wouldn’t let a daughter take care of her parents?  Well,Somewhere, it is !
But Almighty has created Women so strong that they can definitely do anything in this world Then – Why not go for breaking the stereotype that –
‘Taking care of These Two Personalities (without whom, we wouldn’t be anything or would be just a thing) is the responsibility of the Sons Only’ ?

Go Ahead, Women ! 🙂 Nothing is Impossible !

PS- If we can babysit a grownup man 😛 and can take care of his parents, relatives so well … Then C’mon, We can definitely do the same for our parents 🙂

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Be Wise

The best thing that can happen to you is to get a company… a person, with whom you can be just ‘Yourself’ . Well, this ‘best’ thing is followed by a worse thing.. that is ‘being judged’.
I don’t know why but it goes parallel, you are asked to open up and then you’re judged. And on this thing,you have no control. You just can’t stop anyone from judging you. You simply can’t. That’s something our of your control.
But yes, you can control one thing. You can check your first step. You can stop yourself from opening up to ‘wrong’ people. And Hence, you are saved from later regrets.

Now, here I would like to clear that I don’t support being a lonesome person through out. What I want to say is that choose people wisely, just to save yourself from later on consequences.

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